Monday, December 1, 2008

Sadness

So sad... one of my best friends just called me and she was crying. One of her closest friends died this morning and it reminded me of how we take for granted so often the happy times in our life, but it is impossible to not feel the devastation of losing someone close to you. Because she is my friend I feel her sorrow but it is always so hard to know how to comfort someone and how to try to take away the pain. You can talk to them and listen, share and love them but it is so difficult to ever figure out how to really help someone with their grief. I know time will help but it also seems unfair in life that we then have to wish away time... for it really seems so precious to ever wish this away. So I'm going to send love out to my friend that she will hopefully find peace and will cherish her memories and friendship of her dear friend that she has lost.

3 comments:

Mia said...

Heather, a beautiful post...and one very much in line with the conversation we had last evening regarding my friend Wende. I used to think time heals all, but I don't know anymore...loss, is just that...a loss and I'm not certain that there is ever a full recovery...temporary, yes...full - I don't think so. My heart goes to you and your friend...and to the person who has died (why do we say lose/lost/passed away?)...as a friend of mine says sometimes, may she walk on stardust henceforth. - Teresa

hcarroll said...

Thanks... may she walk on stardust henceforth is a nice image to hold.

Killer B said...

I happened across your blog and read your post about losing a loved one. It struck a chord because I lost my dad 6 months ago - the loss hit me with all the subtlety of a truck.

There was nothing anyone could say to me and I've never wished for time to move faster in my life.

Mia's right: Time didn't actually make things better. It just matured the problem and with it came acceptance - This is worth its metaphysical weight in gold and I wish your friend strength and peace.